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Loni H.E.

Society’s Reaction When a Baby Dies

The death of my daughter has been the most traumatic experience of my life. I’ve discovered sides of myself I didn’t know existed – both good and bad – and I’ve grown immensely as a person. I’ve changed. I didn’t know what to expect after she died. I didn’t know what was going to unfold. […]

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Guest Post

Feeling One Day

My daughter Kiley knows no strangers. Within minutes of meeting someone, they will have her life story. “Hello,” she says. “My name is Kiley. I’ll be five soon. I’m having a princess cake for my birthday. That’s my big sister…her name’s Kaitlyn. And this is my new baby brother. His name is Noah, but he […]

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Loni H.E.

Society’s Reaction When a Baby Dies

The death of my daughter has been the most traumatic experience of my life. I’ve discovered sides of myself I didn’t know existed – both good and bad – and I’ve grown immensely as a person. I’ve changed. I didn’t know what to expect after she died. I didn’t know what was going to unfold. […]

Pregnancy After Loss

Melissa Russell

Holding on to Hope

I’ve written about how scared I was to try for another child, but was trying my best to face the fear and jump in. I decided I didn’t want fear to define our next pregnancy; instead I wanted to hang on to hope with everything I’ve got and try to find as much joy as […]



On Calling it Quits

Five years ago, I walked out the fertility doctor’s office with the first optimism I’d had in some time. There in the waiting room was an old friend I hadn’t seen since we were in school together. I was not really sure of the etiquette, so I pretended I didn’t see her, then sent her […]

Parenting After Loss


Say No

In the 1997 film Liar Liar, we find Jim Carrey on the wrong end of a birthday-wish-gone-wrong by his desperate-to-get-my-dad’s-attention son. For those who haven’t seen the film, Carrey’s character is a hard-working man with his priorities out of place. When his son makes an innocent, yet genuine, birthday wish that his father be only […]

Grieving Fathers

Adam Cahill

A Letter to a Younger Man

Dear September 18th 2011 Adam, There is no way to sugarcoat what I am about to tell you. It will be hard to read but you must. You must. Your son—our son—is going to die in five days’ time. You don’t know me but I know you. You see, we used to be the same, […]

Beauty Marks

Eileen Tully


Losing our little ones is like being in the direct path of a violent and destructive storm.  Sometimes, it’s a hurricane, forecast in advance and long-lasting.  Other times, it’s a tornado that appears out of the blue, wreaks its havoc, and then is gone.  Either way, it’s unavoidable, and we are left, shattered, dealing with […]


My Twin Skin

It is the time of year when my Facebook ads and e-mail are bombarded with “weight loss tips”. Advertisers assume that because I’m a woman of a certain age, I must be dissatisfied with my body. If only they knew…. As a woman who struggled through the death of my sons and infertility challenges, my […]

Grieving Grandparents

Calm Before The Storm

Christmas is approaching and for weeks the build up has been going on behind the scenes, teary moments, yearning for our loved ones, almost a calm before the storm. Each year it seems to be different. I remember that first Christmas Cody (02/09/98) died, and then Luke (20/12/98). Luke’s funeral was held just days before Christmas, […]

Comforted By Death

That’s an unusual title of a post, isn’t it? Are people really comforted by death? I think they can be sometimes. Last week, my grandmother died. She had a stroke a few weeks earlier and progressed from ICU to a hospice facility. Our family sat by her side, stroking her hair and whispering our love […]


For Such a Time as This

  Seventeen years ago, I stood beside a tiny grave on a cold November day. I was frozen underneath that gray sky, shivering from more the wind. My twenty-one year old husband put his arm around me and conjured words to will my feet to move. I didn’t know how. I didn’t know how to live […]

Sharing Your Story (Even When The World Won’t Listen)

**I dedicate this article to my beautiful son, who taught me more about love and life than anyone ever has and ever will– and for every child in the world who has senselessly died by violence.  There are no words to describe the deep injustice that parents like us eternally suffer.  It is a torture […]

Guest Writers

Grey Skies

Guest Post By Krista Cooper Losing our son Grayson was like being struck by lightening. It’s not something you ever expect to happen to you. No one ever tells you that babies die before they’re born. Not to me. Not our family. I’ve never even been stung by a bee, never broken a bone! I […]

Still Taboo. Stillbirth.

Guest post by Jackie Stillbirth. That one word holds so much weight. Sure, I’d heard the term before but never felt the nudge of curiosity to learn more about it. I wish I had. One philosophy I’ve lived by: If I learn about something I do not wish to occur in my life; it simply […]

Nine Months

Guest post by Janelle Nine months, which doesn’t seem like a long amount of time when you compare it to the average life expectancy of 78.7 years in the United States. In other cases nine months can seem like forever when you are carrying one of God’s little miracles inside of you anxiously awaiting their […]


Guest post by Kristin Just when I think it’s getting easier, it strikes again. Just this morning, I texted a friend because I was feeling guilty that I no longer felt haunted by thoughts of my son. I felt like a monster for “getting over” the death of my child so quickly. Then, I caught […]

The End of Numbness

Guest post by John It’s been two years, two months, and 19 days since I last held my son. 810 days since I held his broken body and sung the hokey-pokey before it was time to let him go. 19,940 hours since the last time I looked at him in person, rather than on a […]

My New Forever

Guest post by Erin I am a baby sea turtle. On the outside I am protected by a strong shell which was built to withstand the elements, but on the inside I am delicate, sensitive. I have just been born, emerging into the crisp bitterness of the cool air. This world is a scary place. […]

A Dear Friend

Guest post by Rachel My friend is going through a hard time at the moment. Scrap that, her life and her husband’s life has changed and the hard time they are going through will always be there. Ten weeks ago, their beautiful boy was born sleeping. I’m not pretending to know how they are feeling, […]

Five Years Later

Guest post by Erin Where am I five years later? Not quite as far along as I thought I’d be. Now that isn’t to say that I am where I was several years ago or that I am not living my life. I can honestly say, with only a fair amount of guilt, that I […]

Missing Cupcakes

Guest post by Rachel It is a beautiful fall day outside. I woke up hopeful because today is my husband’s birthday and I have been planning some surprises for him which is something I have always loved to do. I have been buying and hiding gifts the last few weeks, made mini-vacation plans, and bought […]

Eyes Wide Shut to a Conflicted Mind

Guest post by Jennifer For the last few days I have been struggling with the topic of this post. I’ve been conflicted. This morning, I took a moment to really think about my conflicted feelings. I started searching for a Bible verse to tie into this post. I didn’t know exactly what I was searching […]

Being Happy and Sad

Guest post by Amy Before our son John was stillborn in November 2012, I knew other women who lost babies. I was always sad for them. I never thought that would happen to me though. But it did. And I was devastated, depressed and heart broken. I was changed. Other disappointments in my life seemed […]

Hurry Up and Wait

Guest post by Maria Bruce was born in a panic. We had made it to 37 weeks, but then at nearly midnight in a bright hospital room with organized chaos descending upon us, it became clear that every moment longer my baby spent inside me threatened his life. My son had signaled something was wrong […]