Returning to work after your child has died is a huge transition in grief. No longer do you have hours in the day to process your emotions and it is more difficult to create time to practice self-care or tend to your heart. Grief is draining both physically and emotionally. Spending hours a day at work…
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If I Am “One In Four” – Where Are The Other Three?
Continue...To my three, According to statistics, one out of every four pregnant women endures miscarriage. Like an anthem call, many of us who have endured pregnancy and infant loss refer to ourselves as “I am 1 in 4” in our memes, graphics, and posts, particularly in the month of October. Somewhere, in the magical, invisible…
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I Am A Bereaved Mother
Continue...I am a bereaved mother. Early on I felt their stares, watching for signs of how I was coping with your loss. All eyes on me… wondering how I could possibly go on when they knew there was no way they could. Time slowly passes. I’m known as the mom whose kid died. There’s an…
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Anxiety Is A Jerk
Continue...My husband and daughter are about an hour away, learning all the cool things that come with being part of an outdoor education club, and instead of hanging out with friends and sipping on a cinnamon mocha, I’m inside my house, NOT cleaning, not doing anything but panicking. I am terrified I’m going to lose…
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Safe To Sleep: SIDS Awareness and ABCs
Continue...The Safe to Sleep campaign is an initiative backed by the US National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) to encourage parents to have their infants sleep on their backs (supine position) to reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome, or SIDS. Part of my role as a home visitor is to educate families…
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Strength Isn’t Always As Strong As It Appears
Continue...What if strength is just an illusion? Strength is often talked about when discussing the grieving. When someone has experienced a significant loss, onlookers or people lining the sidelines often say things about the person’s strength with admiration. What if this perceived strength comes at a cost? What if that person you are admiring for…
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The Fear Of Forgetting
Continue...“I’m afraid I will forget what they look like.” “I’m afraid I will forget what they felt like.” “I’m afraid I will forget ______.” In the early months of the loss of my first two daughters, I remember these fears running through my mind as time went on and the vividness of my memories with…
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