No two pregnancies are the same, and each birth and delivery is different. The same is true when you have lost children – whether you had natural childbirth or surgery, recovery after a loss is difficult and different each time. This post highlights the five untold truths after a 2nd-trimester miscarriage and infant loss. These…
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A Complicated Christmas
Continue...Silent tears fell down my face, as I tried to compose myself. The silence was overwhelming. It is meant to be the most wonderful time of year, a time for warmth and love – full of family. It isn’t a silence that you’re probably thinking of, it is the silence of someone missing – a…
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Responding To That Holiday Invite
Continue...Dear Friend, Thanks so much for the invite to your party! I really appreciate that you remembered me and thought to include me. I know it wasn’t easy, because you know I’m still grieving. I just wanted to let you know I love it whenever anyone thinks of me. I’d really like to come, so…
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Time Is Not A Thief
Continue...By the time you read this, my rainbow baby will be days away from turning one year old. As I reflect on all that this year has given to me, I do not feel sadness. I feel gratitude and joy. This year has been a wonderful gift. Something that I found surprising about this first…
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Christmas Time After Loss
Continue...The holidays and especially Christmas time after a loss can be very challenging. Filled with family gatherings and wishes including words such as ‘merry’, ‘happy’ or ‘grateful’ might you want to scream and run for cover. This is where extreme self-care is required. First Christmas I remember the first Christmas time after my daughter died.…
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You Will Always Be My (Rainbow) Baby
Continue...I remember the day I met you, my rainbow baby, like it was yesterday. The dark. The winter cool. The solitude. The way my hips swayed as hot water poured down my back. How months of anxiety eased beneath the tension of each contraction. And how pain made me breathe in sharp and strong at…
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Why “Get Over It” and “Move On” Don’t Apply to Babyloss
Continue...I know you meant well when you told me to “get over” losing my only child to stillbirth. Upon reflection, I realize what you probably meant to say is that you don’t want to see me suffer the pain of this loss or to live the rest of my life experiencing that pain. Maybe what you…
