The bereaved mother is a warrior. Each day she faces the world whilst carrying the greatest of pain. Each day she lives while her child does not. Each day she fights to stay standing as grief tries to tear her down. The bereaved mother is a superhero. She survives, she thrives, thanks to superpowers gifted…
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This Person I’ve Become
Continue...I am not the person I once was. Child loss leaves no relationship untouched, no personal belief unquestioned. I can no longer look at the world with unwavering optimism or subscribe to mantras that oversimplify the human experience. “Everything happens for a reason.” After witnessing my own child die in my arms, I cannot possibly…
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Cancer Was Not Supposed To Be Part Of My Story
Continue...‘Malignant cells identified.’ Words I never wanted to hear. My cancer diagnosis arrived just shy of what would have been my daughter’s 7th birthday. I am facing the unknown once again. My diagnosis is unknown, the treatment plan is unknown, my future is unknown, everything is unknown. It’s scary, terrifying, and overwhelming. I have always…
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Grief And Letting Go: A Lost Friendship
Continue...Our friendship had endured for many years. But I’ll never forget the phone call she and I had. I was six months into my life as a bereaved mother. I had become a recluse due to the anxiety attacks I suffered when I encountered a crying baby in public. And I hadn’t slept well since…
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Sharing Infant Loss: Three Annoying Social Realities
Continue...Allow me to address a topic that our modern “happy” world easily dismisses. Are you ready for it? Here it comes: I had a baby who died. I’m a survivor of infant loss. My daughter passed away when she was a day old. This is part of my truth. Yet, I often feel an expectation…
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Life After Loss: A Turbulent Ocean
Continue...When I came home from the hospital, it really bothered me when people would say “You are so strong! I can’t imagine what you are going through.” No, they couldn’t. And I didn’t want them to. I didn’t feel strong. I felt like when my twins died, I went with them. Other times, I realized…
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5 Ways to Care for Yourself After Miscarriage
Continue...Miscarriage can impact every part of our lives. At least, it did for me. By the time I finished undergoing the physical process of the loss, I felt like I did not know who I was. I did not know what day it was, only that I had been in bed for almost a week.…
