In case no one has ever said this to you, I want you to know – It’s okay to stop trying. For children. For living children. For more children. Even if you have never been able to get pregnant. Even if all of your babies died and you don’t have any living children. Even if…
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One More (Life)Time
Continue...I am painfully aware of your stillness now, And now that I’ve noticed, I can’t un-notice. It’s an overwhelming stillness… A nothingness that means everything, – that changes everything. One more time, 2 pink lines will end in heartbreak. One more time, caught off-guard, an empathetic professional has said, “I’m so sorry…” One more time,…
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To The Mother Whose Son Killed Mine – Don’t Compare My Grief To Yours
Continue...On the first day of the trial, as you stood nervously outside the Court, alone, waiting to enter through the double doors, I felt your pain, your isolation. Two years before, you had sent me a condolence letter. I was grateful that you’d acknowledged my loss. So, taking a deep breath, I walked slowly towards…
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Mothering The Grieving Mother Is Important
Continue...Mothering your child after they’ve lost a child must be one of the hardest jobs. You are grief-stricken from the loss of your grandchild and so broken from witnessing your own child’s heartbreak. But your job is so important. This is when your superpowers have to come out—muster all the love your heart holds and…
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Journeying Through Grief Without A Final Destination
Continue...I have been traveling through my grief journey for over two years now. When my infant daughter died in my arms on that fateful June morning, all the hopes and dreams I had for her future shattered like glass beneath my feet. While I had no idea what life would look like in the aftermath…
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Friendship In Grief: Part 1
Continue...Why do we lose friendships in the midst of grief? I have asked myself this question for years. There is no one correct answer. But I think that it has a lot to do with society’s handling of the topic of child loss. I genuinely think most friends just don’t know what to say. Or…
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Being A Grieving Parent Sucks
Continue...Life as a grieving parent is unimaginable. You never realize how much you are going to change; how other relationships will change. Life becomes different. As a grieving parent, you constantly doubt yourself, question yourself, question your relationship with others, question your relationship with grief. Am I sad enough? Do I grieve enough? Am I…
