Dear Friend, Thanks so much for the invite to your party! I really appreciate that you remembered me and thought to include me. I know it wasn’t easy, because you know I’m still grieving. I just wanted to let you know I love it whenever anyone thinks of me. I’d really like to come, so…
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Secondary Losses – How Long Is Your List?
Continue...The death of our child is termed a ‘primary loss‘. Sadly, it’s not the only loss we must endure. Many bereaved parents fail to realize that the moment our child dies, we begin to experience ‘secondary losses‘. And these, like the devastating loss of our child, must also be grieved. For those new to the…
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Saying “At Least” Is Not Comforting After Child Loss – Here’s What To Say Instead
Continue...Over the years, I’ve learned to ignore anything that comes after the words “at least” as it relates to the loss of my son. Statements that start with “at least” are not comforting or helpful to parents grieving a child and here is why: It completely invalidates their loss, their child and their suffering. At least…
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Straight Talk About A Convoluted Situation: Suicide
Continue...Guest Post by William R. Newhouse. Bio: Retired engineer. Former Naval officer. Married. One natural son (died) and two stepsons. 68 years old. Eleven years ago my 19-year-old son committed suicide. The article below is something I wrote to try and educate others as to how to interact with a parent who has lost a…
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Be Who You Needed
Continue...I don’t always know the right thing to say. Sometimes, I say something so idiotic that for the next week I replay it in my mind, and wish I would have been swallowed by a sinkhole before I could say that dumb thing. Sometimes, in my attempt to be funny, I say something horrible or…
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Want To Support A Bereaved Mother? Do This…
Continue...Twice I have carried to term babies with fatal diagnoses. Twice I have said goodbye to babies far sooner than I wanted. And twice I have climbed into the car, my body freshly postpartum, with no baby. Twice I have stumbled along, figuring out how to be a mother to a child who is no…
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Infant Loss and Grief: I Don’t Know What To Say
Continue...If I had a dollar for every time I have heard someone say, “I don’t know what to say to someone who’s lost a baby,” I would be rolling in piles of cash. I wouldn’t blame a single confessor of this truth. The topic of baby and infant loss is so taboo and silenced that…
