Nobody wants to talk about how painful losing a child is because it’s hard to hear, especially for those who love us. Sure, many times people will talk about the sadness and grief and may even acknowledge how hard it must be, but pain—true raw, excruciating pain—is rarely mentioned. I wrote this three months after…
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I See You, I Know You, I Have Been Where You Are: A Letter To The Newly Bereaved Parent
Continue...Dear Newly Bereaved Parent, My heart breaks for you. I am truly so very sorry you find yourself here, reading my words. I’ve been where you are, and it’s the worst place to be. So deeply devastated, while feeling helpless and hopeless. You feel like you’re broken and can’t be put back together. That no…
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When Grief Is Overwhelming, I Am Cheering For You
Continue...I thought I’d die from her death. Often, I prayed that I would. I believed the pain would eventually overtake my body and I would die, too. I couldn’t imagine a life worth living without my child. The emptiness and facing a life without my daughter felt overwhelming. I wasn’t suicidal. I was grieving. I…
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Not You Too, My Friend?
Continue...I’ve discovered that yet another friend of mine has experienced what no parent should ever have to – the loss of their precious little baby. It doesn’t matter what age, gestation, whether there was a medical reason, or how long ago it was. It’s a cruel tragedy that no parent recovers from. It doesn’t matter…
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Postpartum Recovery After Loss
Continue...When I became a bereaved mother, I didn’t know where to turn for information about postpartum recovery. I delivered my 8lb 13oz daughter stillborn at full term. Because of her unexplained death, her birth required a number of interventions that set me up for a difficult postpartum recovery. I wasn’t guided in this apart from…
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What My Grief Looks Like Ten Months In
Continue...I thought I knew what grief and mourning were before our son died. In my mind’s eye, I always imagined it was a period of time where one feels deep sorrow for the passing of a loved one, whether it be a family member or friend. I imagined the grief would eventually come to an…
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4 Lessons Grief Taught Me in My First Year After Loss
Continue...The first year after pregnancy, infant, or child loss can be so hard. Nothing is the way it should be, and grief can feel like being lost in a wilderness with no map or compass. Here are a few things I learned in my first year after loss. Hopefully, they can help you find your…
