• Not the Way it is

    June 11, 2013

    I don’t remember the sun shining after we lost her. Days still began and ended, but none of my memories withhold any brightness from the sky. Gray darkness rolled in and remained. Even the clouds agreed with our sadness as their underbelly constantly threatened rain or — maybe tears? Their heaviness mimicked my burden. We were supposed…

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  • Self-Care: Asking for Help

    June 10, 2013

    One of the toughest things for human beings to do is ask for help. We don’t like it. We don’t like to admit that we’ve had enough. We don’t want to confess to holding onto more than we can handle. We don’t like to expose any vulnerability. We don’t like to feel helpless. And let’s…

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  • No Matter What

    June 9, 2013

    Guest Post by Jonathan Pascual Thinking back I was always the proud Father. We had only known Elena for 6 weeks, even though she had already been hanging around for 20. That summer of 2002, I was an educator. We were wrapping a Summer enrichment program for middle school kids in Torrance, CA and my…

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    I Am A Lucky Man – Except I’m Not

    June 7, 2013

    I am a lucky man – except I’m not. We are a lucky family – except we’re not. My wife and I live in our ideal 30-year house in a cul-de-sac neighborhood with our 3-year-old daughter, Madelyn, and our 6-month-old son, Jackson. Madelyn is as stubborn as we had hoped for to be and as…

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  • The Guilt No One Talks About…

    June 7, 2013

    You know what I hate? When people compare their losses. I know it’s human.  I remember losing Matthew and women telling me they knew how I felt because they’d suffered an early miscarriage and me thinking they were nuts because there was NO comparison.  Losing a baby at 8 weeks could not have POSSIBLY hurt…

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  • Common Reactions to Uncommon Multiple Miscarriage

    Common Reactions to Uncommon Multiple Miscarriage

    June 6, 2013

    We all know that miscarriage is not widely talked about. Those of us grieving tend to seek out someone to talk to, some way to share our hearts and our feelings because that’s what you do when you’re grieving. The silence seems to come from other people, the uncomfortable cloud that appears when we start…

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  • Feeling One Day

    June 6, 2013

    Guest Post by Kristen Hackler My daughter Kiley knows no strangers. Within minutes of meeting someone, they will have her life story. “Hello,” she says. “My name is Kiley. I’ll be five soon. I’m having a princess cake for my birthday. That’s my big sister…her name’s Kaitlyn. And this is my new baby brother. His name…

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