About 6 months after the silent birth of our firstborn child and 5 months of trying for another child, my husband and I decided to go back to the fertility doctor. Since the birth of our son, my once like-clockwork cycles were all over the place. Even if we were able to conceive a child,…
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The Question–Is This Your First Baby?
Continue...The Question “Congratulations,” said the young man at the cashier’s station with a smile after a few glances at my hard-to-miss baby bump. He was so sincere and seemed genuinely happy for me, a stranger he’d never met. As I put the last few grocery items on the conveyer belt, I thought to myself how…
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Not Wanting To Be Pregnant Again Is Fine
Continue...Many people think that the decision to try to have more children after a loss is an easy one. It isn’t. This whole idea of conceiving or adopting even after a successful rainbow baby experience is challenging. For this reason, some parents never conceive again. The mental and emotional anguish is an indescribable feeling that…
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4 Things Not To Say To Pregnancy After Loss Parents
Continue...Sometimes, even the kindest, most well-intentioned individuals can say the wrong things, especially to loss parents. It’s understandably difficult for non-loss parents to know what to say around those who’ve experienced the death of their baby or child, so they unknowingly end up using phrases that can sting. Knowing what to say becomes even more…
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Is It Possible To Forgive My Doctors?
Continue...The idea of forgiveness has presented itself lately within unexpected interactions with people. Last week, I spoke to the daughter of a woman who played an invaluable role in raising me as a child. During our conversation, she told me the unfortunate details of how her mother died suddenly and spoke of the potential medical negligence…
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Pregnancy After Loss is Complicated
Continue...After my daughter died, I quickly became pregnant with my son. I had so much love in my broken heart with no place to put it, having another baby seemed the only solution. I knew another baby wouldn’t replace her, but I desperately ached for a baby to love in my arms. Considering a pregnancy…
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Irish Twin Rainbow
Continue...Irish Twins: two children born to the same mother in the same calendar year or within twelve months of each other. –verywellfamily “Just try again” said the friends. “But wait six months” cautioned the provider. What is the appropriate perspective on sex after miscarriage or stillbirth? What is the right way to interpret…
