My relationship with pregnancy has always been a bit rocky. My very first pregnancy ended in miscarriage and I was blessed with a healthy boy following that pregnancy after loss. I assumed my reproductive troubles were over. Lo and behold I was wrong as the pattern repeated itself: another early miscarriage followed by a healthy…
-
Don’t Tell Us Not To Worry: A Dad Shares On Pregnancy After Loss
Continue...I feel that it is important to share my experience on Pregnancy After Loss. Some may think that it is a strange thing to say: a Dad being stressed about pregnancy because you don’t grow the baby. That is indeed true but I stood side by side with my wife Emily while she was pregnant…
-
Confessions of a Bereaved Mother on Bedrest
Continue...I was recently placed on bedrest for my pregnancy after loss (PAL). The weight of the twin girls was putting too much strain on my cervix, which caused it to dramatically shorten in a small amount of time. All of this was discovered at a routine 24-week scan. Now I am hoping to live out…
-
Pregnancy After Loss: Fear and Anxiety
Continue...About 6 months after the silent birth of our firstborn child and 5 months of trying for another child, my husband and I decided to go back to the fertility doctor. Since the birth of our son, my once like-clockwork cycles were all over the place. Even if we were able to conceive a child,…
-
The Question–Is This Your First Baby?
Continue...The Question “Congratulations,” said the young man at the cashier’s station with a smile after a few glances at my hard-to-miss baby bump. He was so sincere and seemed genuinely happy for me, a stranger he’d never met. As I put the last few grocery items on the conveyer belt, I thought to myself how…
-
Not Wanting To Be Pregnant Again Is Fine
Continue...Many people think that the decision to try to have more children after a loss is an easy one. It isn’t. This whole idea of conceiving or adopting even after a successful rainbow baby experience is challenging. For this reason, some parents never conceive again. The mental and emotional anguish is an indescribable feeling that…
-
4 Things Not To Say To Pregnancy After Loss Parents
Continue...Sometimes, even the kindest, most well-intentioned individuals can say the wrong things, especially to loss parents. It’s understandably difficult for non-loss parents to know what to say around those who’ve experienced the death of their baby or child, so they unknowingly end up using phrases that can sting. Knowing what to say becomes even more…
