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    The Bereaved Mother: A True Superhero

    July 22, 2018

    The bereaved mother is a warrior. Each day she faces the world whilst carrying the greatest of pain. Each day she lives while her child does not. Each day she fights to stay standing as grief tries to tear her down. The bereaved mother is a superhero. She survives, she thrives, thanks to superpowers gifted…

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  • While this person I’ve become carries incredible pain within her heart, she is so much more than the trauma she has faced.

    This Person I’ve Become

    July 20, 2018

    I am not the person I once was. Child loss leaves no relationship untouched, no personal belief unquestioned. I can no longer look at the world with unwavering optimism or subscribe to mantras that oversimplify the human experience. “Everything happens for a reason.” After witnessing my own child die in my arms, I cannot possibly…

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  • Control (Or Lack Thereof)

    July 11, 2018

    There are a lot of things in my life I feel like I cannot control. Some are my struggle with weight-loss, my children’s behavior, and certainly not the fact that my twins died just a day after they were born. When I was a young girl, my room was SO messy. Disgusting, actually. It drove…

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  • Sharing Infant loss: Social realities: person holding finger over their mouth to say be quiet

    Sharing Infant Loss: Three Annoying Social Realities

    July 10, 2018

    Allow me to address a topic that our modern “happy” world easily dismisses. Are you ready for it? Here it comes: I had a baby who died. I’m a survivor of infant loss. My daughter passed away when she was a day old. This is part of my truth. Yet, I often feel an expectation…

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  • Unexpected Gifts Of Grief

    The Unexpected Gifts of Grief

    July 8, 2018

    For those who have lost a child, we sit in a perplexing space of saying goodbye to the one who was supposed to outlive us. This was not the way we ever thought grief would enter our lives. And it’s hard to imagine that grief could bring anything more than heartache into our world. Yet,…

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  • It's two years later since I last saw my daughter alive.

    Two Years Later: My Second Year Of Grief

    June 29, 2018

    Two years have passed since I last saw my daughter alive. Two years since that fateful morning in June, when a compassionate doctor helped us understand that it was time to let her go. Two years since I held her for the first and last time. Two years since I watched her velvety skin darken.…

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  • Getting Anxiety In Check

    June 24, 2018

    I recently sat in my boss’s office for my annual evaluation. I teach 4th grade, and my principal had some data pulled up on the screen in front of us. “So,” she started. “What do you think has been the biggest change this year? Something you’re proud of?” I hesitated, of course, but, luckily, I…

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