Yesterday was a day of triggers I did not see coming, and it was like a cruel punch to the gut. The kind that winds you, leaving you crawling on the ground and gasping for air. You know the ones…the triggers that hurt so bad there are no cries or words that sum it up.…
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Bereaved Moms Book Club
Continue...The death of a child changes everything. You never know when you’re going to walk on a landmine, setting off grief and leaving you sobbing. Even books, television, and movies are forever changed. I’ve wondered if I should start the “Bereaved Moms Book Club” just so everyone knows what to avoid—or at least knows to…
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Using Therapy To Heal After Loss
Continue...There’s an assumption that you go to therapy to fix what’s broken. I believe this is a reason why people regard therapy with such hesitation. It’s painful to face your fragmented life and it can be even more painful to pick up the pieces. If you’re a bereaved parent, you might not see the point…
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30+ Ways Life Sucks After Infertility and Loss
Continue...For all of those dealing (or who have dealt with) infertility, pregnancy loss, and/or baby loss, I present for your consideration, a truly terrible grouping of some of the nonsense we go through in daily life: 1) Bellies. Round with child, bumping into you on the train, sitting on laps at the doctor’s office, or staring…
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Facing Trauma While Grieving
Continue...Since my daughter, Blake, died, I’ve heard the word “trauma” a lot. Therapists have said things like, “…because of all the trauma you’ve experienced…” or “…you’re having a trauma response…” I decided to google this word and here’s what I saw: The experience of losing a child is actually part of the definition of trauma.…
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- Advocacy
- Complicated Grief
- In the Community
- Psychology and Grief
- Supporting a Friend After Loss
- Supporting a Friend Through Loss
Part III — Crisis, Trauma and the Justice System
Continue...Part I Part II This, the third article of the four-part series on homicide loss, explores in more detail the difficulties faced by co-victims and how those in their community can help them. The first area of focus — support during the legal process — deals with the justice system and how it affects…
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- Complicated Grief
- Emotions
- Emotions/Feelings
- Faith
- Grief
- Life After Loss
- Multiple Loss
- PTSD
- Returning to Work
- Triggers
- Twins / Twinless Twins
The Snowball Effect of Loss
Continue...Becoming a bereaved mother results in many losses. I didn’t just lose my twins, I lost a lot more. I lost an entire future that changed the second they passed. There are many other losses that people don’t think about when they think about child loss. They number many, but here are a few I…
