• Only once I became comfortable with my grief did I find any peace

    Getting Comfortable With My Grief

    February 24, 2018

    How do you learn to get comfortable with your grief? It is so all-consuming that you soon learn to hate it, wishing it would just go away. But what if fighting against it only makes it worse? Accepting that grief is a part of your new life may be the key. When I held my…

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  • How Adopting a Puppy Helped Me Grieve

    February 23, 2018

    When my son, Jonah, was stillborn at 30 weeks in January 2017, my beloved cat, Cally, was in her last months on Earth. Cally and I had an amazing bond, but at 22 years old, she was really, really old. Cally had lived the longest and loveliest of kitty lives, from the time we found…

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  • Therapy is an important tool in healing after the heartbreak of loss.

    Using Therapy To Heal After Loss

    February 22, 2018

    There’s an assumption that you go to therapy to fix what’s broken.  I believe this is a reason why people regard therapy with such hesitation.  It’s painful to face your fragmented life and it can be even more painful to pick up the pieces.  If you’re a bereaved parent, you might not see the point…

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  • The Physical Pain Of Grief

    February 21, 2018

    It has been over three years since I first experienced grief at its most heightened level. I had experienced grief before with the passing of my grandmother, a close friend, and extended family. But when my own child died and I held his body in my arms, I was confronted with a grief that I’d…

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  • When Grief Surprises You

    February 20, 2018

    Grief hit me hard this year on my birthday. Unexpected grief is always the hardest to handle because it is a surprise. When anniversaries or special occasions appear on the calendar, I can brace myself, somewhat prepare for what I expect will come. The date gives me permission to sink and release. When it’s unplanned,…

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  • Gardening through Grief

    Gardening Through Grief

    February 17, 2018

    My childhood is blessed with memories of apple orchards, picking blackberries, raking autumn leaves and snowmen. And yes, of gardening, of being a reluctant helper in my parents’ soggy vegetable plot. When I started a family I knew I wanted my children to feel compassion and connected to living things. I’d been working in a city…

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  • Healing Is Every Day Work

    February 14, 2018

    Someone recently asked me, “After all this time, and all the writing and speaking you’ve done about the twins, does it still hurt just as badly to talk about it?” I had to think long and hard before I answered. As with most things, there wasn’t really a yes or no answer for this. “Grief…

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