• A lost friendship after grief is hard

    Grief And Letting Go: A Lost Friendship

    July 13, 2018

    Our friendship had endured for many years. But I’ll never forget the phone call she and I had. I was six months into my life as a bereaved mother. I had become a recluse due to the anxiety attacks I suffered when I encountered a crying baby in public. And I hadn’t slept well since…

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  • Unexpected Gifts Of Grief

    The Unexpected Gifts of Grief

    July 8, 2018

    For those who have lost a child, we sit in a perplexing space of saying goodbye to the one who was supposed to outlive us. This was not the way we ever thought grief would enter our lives. And it’s hard to imagine that grief could bring anything more than heartache into our world. Yet,…

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  • Talk about child loss is important

    Why We Need To Talk About Child Loss

    July 4, 2018

    Why do we need to talk about child loss, when it is so hard… When are we met with silence? When people just don’t get it, unless they have experienced it themselves? When all we need is to be understood and taken care of because grieving sucks all our energy? It seems pointless but it’s…

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  • Heart in the sand

    Names In The Sand

    June 25, 2018

    Have you ever written a name in the sand? This morning, on a beach far from home, I stood in the early morning light. The sun was beginning to warm the sand, gentle waves lapping at the shore. The beach was almost empty, the sea clear and calm. It was so peaceful. I took a deep…

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  • Time doesn't heal in childloss

    Myths Of Child Loss Grief: Time Doesn’t Heal

    June 19, 2018

    Time doesn’t heal. It gives you space to find healing. Time can feel like a gift and a thief at the same time. It gives you the opportunity to do the work of filling in some of the gigantic hole left in your heart with peace, yet as it keeps rolling on, it can also feel…

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  • babyloss mama

    Finding My Babyloss Mama Tribe

    June 13, 2018

    After my recent retreat with Return to Zero Healing Center, I imagined what it would be like if, in her grief, every babyloss mama could enter sacred space for a time, supported in her healing and surrounded by other bereaved mamas. I call this tribe the Clan of Brave Mothers. I found my babyloss mama tribe…

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  • Person sitting along in an expansive field looking at the distant mountains

    With You When You Awaken; Still There When The Darkness Descends

    June 6, 2018

    Fighting against the reality of child loss won’t lead us to the place through which we must travel: the honest, intimate, soul-crushing acceptance that we’re grieving because our child is dead. That’s what we’re being asked to do in facing this indecent truth. We’re being asked to take the hand of this most unwanted, terrifying…

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