When we lost our first two children, I anticipated the grief that would come from missing them so very deeply but what I didn’t anticipate was the grief that would come when good friends moved. It’s the grief of watching friends who stood by our side in those dark years of grief move to other…
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Trying To Be Thankful
Continue...November… Thanksgiving… time to be thankful. As a grieving parent, the word THANKFUL has us cringing because being thankful conflicts with our grief. How can we grieve and be thankful? Since we grieve, can we even be thankful? I’ve learned how conflicting being a grieving parent can be, constantly in doubt of my own thoughts…
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Please Accept My Regret When I Struggle To Celebrate Your Miracle
Continue...Recently, a friend of mine announced a miracle. And it was, truly. I should have been overjoyed — she is a wife and mom who deserves to be with her loved ones. I should have been relieved — the loss of her would be absolutely tragic in every way. I should have been grateful — but I found myself feeling…
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A Grief Like No Other
Continue...Words that were meant to console and comfort but missed the mark were a part of raw grief. “Give it time. It’ll get better,” I was told as I struggled to breathe within the nightmare that was my new normal. Haven’t we all been there? The well-meaning friends supporting us as we stand shell-shocked following…
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Time To Grieve – How Long Will My Grief Last?
Continue...How long will I be grieving the death of my child? How long will my grief last? When will I feel better? Is there a time to grieve? Is it true that I need to ‘move on’ or ‘get over it’? What does ‘moving on’ look like? How much time to grieve do I have?…
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Why the Grief Olympics Never Made Sense
Continue...For the most part, I have found the babyloss community to be a safe haven. The stories, friendship, and support of other bereaved parents helped me feel normal in my grief after my daughter’s stillbirth. But like all communities made up of human beings, there are some shadowy aspects that can pop up from time…
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Learning To Live With Grief Brain
Continue...Losing my daughter has changed the way I think. I don’t just mean my perspective on life has changed, I mean the actual cognitive process of thinking. I have grief brain. Grief brain is what happens to your exhausted mind after the loss of a loved one. I’m not sure how much scientific evidence there…
