Here at Still Standing, we talk about how hard life is after a child has died. We talk about ways to support bereaved parents, books to read, and committing to self-care. But what is it like to be on the other side? What is it like to love someone who grieves a child? Sometimes, we…
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- Dealing With Others in Grief
- Life After Loss
- Supporting a Friend After Loss
- Supporting a Friend Through Loss
Loving A Grieving Friend – Even When It’s Hard
Continue...Should grievers be given the freedom to mourn endlessly? Is it ok to withdraw, to be antisocial, to be far from the friend, daughter, wife, mother you once were? Is that understandable, justifiable when grief has stolen so much of your heart? Or does there come a point when enough is enough, when it is…
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6 Things You Should Know About Pregnancy Loss
Continue...To those who wish to walk with us while we grieve, There are a lot of misconceptions about what pregnancy loss really looks like. Until you go through it yourself, nothing could truly prepare you for mess and pain that this reality brings. As loss parents, we understand that from the outside looking in, it…
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- Dealing With Others in Grief
- Emotions/Feelings
- Supporting a Friend After Loss
- Supporting a Friend Through Loss
Impact Matters: Why You Can’t Heal Our Wounds
Continue...If there’s one topic that has been written about at length in the grief community, it’s what not to say to a bereaved parent. There are bulleted lists, slide shows, and blog posts covering one of the most achingly common issues a grieving parent encounters. I have read them, nodding my head in agreement. I’ve…
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To The One Whose Kindness Was A Beacon Of Hope In My Despair
Continue...To the one whose kindness was a beacon of hope in my despair, You, my dear friend, my coworker, my family member, my online Facebook friend . . . even you, the stranger . . . you opened your eyes, and you saw the invisible me in the depths of pain from infertility and loss. And now I…
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Supporting You in Grief Saved Me Too
Continue...As I emerged from my recurrent pregnancy losses, I discovered that the new version of me had found her calling: to help support others in their grief. Just like a lifeguard devotes time and attention to make sure other swimmers are safe, I’m now standing on the shore of grief throwing out lifelines to those…
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7 Ways To Support A Grieving Friend
Continue...Watching a friend experience the loss of their baby and the grief that remains can feel so helpless. Unfortunately, there isn’t a “one-size fits all” approach to support a grieving friend through loss, but there are many ways to be supportive. When my daughter died at 33-days-old, it was the first loss of this type…
