• A letter to myself before enduring child loss.

    A Letter To the Woman I Was Before Child Loss

    January 1, 2018

    Dear Beautiful and Innocent Former Self, You will not believe where life has taken us and what life has taken from us.  If I stood in front of you today and told you our story of child loss and grief, you would probably stare back at me in disbelief.   You might not think it possible…

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  • Self Preservation After Loss

    November 6, 2017

    I used to pride myself on being the kind of person who would do anything for anyone.  I regularly put the needs and wants of others before my own.  I thought I was being such a nice person if I considered the people around me at the sake of ignoring myself. I’m different now.  …

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  • The Baby in the Mirror

    October 2, 2017

    My daughter, Frances, has a favorite game that we play.  It’s called ‘baby in the mirror’ and it consists of her father or I holding her up so she can watch ‘the baby in the mirror.’  She is fascinated by her reflection and she seems both elated and unsure of what her mirror baby might…

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  • Can You See The Grief?

    August 7, 2017

    Can You See The Grief? I’ve just revealed my story.  I’m a bereaved parent.  I’ve lost my baby. She died.   After the awkward silence settles in and divides us, you mumble something about how you didn’t know.  My heart goes out to you.  How could you know? There is no mark to distinguish me…

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  • Waiting for the High

    August 3, 2017

    When Dorothy died, I plummeted.  I found myself in the lowest place I had ever been to.  It was far below any place I had visited before.  You might know the level I speak of; a low so far down that when you look up, you see black.   There is nothing there for you.…

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