The holidays and especially Christmas time after a loss can be very challenging. Filled with family gatherings and wishes including words such as ‘merry’, ‘happy’ or ‘grateful’ might you want to scream and run for cover. This is where extreme self-care is required. First Christmas I remember the first Christmas time after my daughter died.…
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Time To Grieve – How Long Will My Grief Last?
Continue...How long will I be grieving the death of my child? How long will my grief last? When will I feel better? Is there a time to grieve? Is it true that I need to ‘move on’ or ‘get over it’? What does ‘moving on’ look like? How much time to grieve do I have?…
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October – Pregnancy And Infant Loss Awareness Month 2018
Continue...October is International SIDS, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month (and also Breast Cancer Awareness Month). This article will shine a light on the history and meaning for our community, and provide a resource of events and projects you can take part, if you wish, to make this month meaningful for you. It will also offer a…
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Death Anniversary : The Body Remembers
Continue...Today is the seventh death anniversary of my daughter. As I’m typing it, I feel the strangeness of this sentence. I stop mid-sentence and find myself somewhat confused. How do I deal with something that I wish wouldn’t be real, year after year? Death Anniversary: The body remembers The week leading up to today was…
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The Evolution Of Grief: Grieving In The Seventh Year
Continue...What is it like in the seventh year of grief? Is the grieving still there all the time? Is it gone, mostly gone or never gone completely? My daughter A’Mya died on September 3rd 2011, just 3 days old. In the first few months, I couldn’t see further than feeding her twin sister and getting…
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Why We Need To Talk About Child Loss
Continue...Why do we need to talk about child loss, when it is so hard… When are we met with silence? When people just don’t get it, unless they have experienced it themselves? When all we need is to be understood and taken care of because grieving sucks all our energy? It seems pointless but it’s…
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Healing After Child Loss? Possible Or Impossible?
Continue...After the death of my daughter six and a half years ago I wrote: “I will never get over this.” This still holds true to some extent. However, I’m no longer in the despair that led me to make over-generalized statements about healing and sentences that implied I had the power of premonition. Healing –…