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    Things Not To Say To A Bereaved Parent

    June 1, 2018

    There are a million things not to say to a bereaved parent, but some things said, particularly when comparing loss, are just not things a bereaved parent wants to hear. Things like… 1. “I’ve had a miscarriage too.” I know how painful a miscarriage can be; sadly I have been through them too. But please…

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  • Chapel Of Rest. The Last Goodbyes

    May 4, 2018

    We saw her for the last time the evening before, at the chapel of rest in the local funeral directors, I don’t regret my decision to see her, I just regret not reading to her; or holding her a bit longer. When we walked away from the hospital the day she died, she had begun to…

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    Why Time Isn’t A Healer

    April 19, 2018

    “Time is a healer, you will be okay.” This was a common phrase when our daughter first died. Time was going to make everything okay, everything better. I waited and watched. Having spent a little over five weeks, waiting and clock watching it only seemed that this was what I was meant to be doing…

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    I Don’t Believe My Daughter Is An Angel

    April 7, 2018

     It was such a shock when our daughter died; just 24 hours before we’d had hopes, for the future. Our premature princess was coming home. But then she didn’t. We had to sit confused; listening to how they were going to switch off her ventilator; to make sure she had last minute cuddles, to prepare…

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    Thoughts On Her Anniversary

    March 3, 2018

    I never really expected the days between her birthday and anniversary to hurt as much as they do. The run-up to the anniversary is never easy; it never shocks me how much this one hurts. The date of her birth gives us a moment, a few days of happy, to grip tightly on to; we can…

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    Can’t Look Away: The Days Before Her Birthday

    February 3, 2018

    Living February to April each year on repeat, much like Groundhog Day I live it again as if it was just last week. I always find the lead-up to her birthday worse than the day itself. It is almost like a car crash, I can see it is about to happen, yet no matter how…

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    Another Year Without Her

    January 6, 2018

    New Year At the clock strikes midnight into a brand new year; it brings a fresh start and new beginnings. For me, it takes me further away from my daughter, from the last time I saw her, held her or touched her. January is the step onto the countdown, the step to uphill climb to…

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