“Have more sex! You’ll get pregnant!” Anyone hear that before? After a decade of “trying,” it’s safe to say I’ll never look at sex the same way again. Having to time the most intimate of marital activities by when (or if) I ovulate doesn’t leave a lot of room for spontaneity, romance, or heck, even…
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Bereaved Parenting Still Has Challenges
Continue...When you’re expecting a child, either one in the womb or through adoption, people love to tell you the same thing, over and over: the days are long but the years are short. If you do conceive or adopt, and your child is here, that saying can become a constant refrain going through your head.…
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You’re Allowed To Be Done
Continue...I’m going to tell you something that you might not hear, and may not want to: you are ALLOWED to stop. Stop the treatments; stop charting, stop monitoring every single sign and symptom of either pregnancy, ovulation, or your coming period. You can quit reading long into the night, searching for a way to either…
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April Foolish: This Pain Is Not A Joke
Continue...It happens every year. Someone decides to put a picture of a positive test, or a baby on an ultrasound, or some other way of announcing a pregnancy onto social media for April Fool’s Day. You’re just about to hit that requisite ‘like’ button (jaw clenched and tears burning in your eyes) when you finish…
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- Emotions
- Finding Hope
- Healing
- Honoring Your Child
- Memories
- Multiple Loss
- Secondary Infertility
- Secondary Losses
Tangible
Continue...All of my losses were early. I never got to see an ultrasound picture, never felt little kicks, never even got into my maternity jeans. The only way that I knew that there was anything to miss were positive pregnancy tests that gradually faded from one line to two. That and vomiting in some seriously…
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30+ Ways Life Sucks After Infertility and Loss
Continue...For all of those dealing (or who have dealt with) infertility, pregnancy loss, and/or baby loss, I present for your consideration, a truly terrible grouping of some of the nonsense we go through in daily life: 1) Bellies. Round with child, bumping into you on the train, sitting on laps at the doctor’s office, or staring…
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A Letter To My Kids…
Continue...Hey guys. I need to apologize. To you. Even though I’m an adult and we think we’ve got it all down, we make mistakes, and I need to ask for forgiveness. When your sister and I are out and about running around town, or at homeschool days, or reading in chairs at the library and…