The further I travel along my loss journey, the stronger I’ve become. Though it’s been a hard road for the past two years, and I miss my baby girl terribly, I’ve somehow managed to empower myself along the way. It started with self-care, moving toward finding my own voice, and cutting out negativity whenever possible.…
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The Emotional Tug-Of-War Of Pregnancy After Loss
Continue...Pregnancy after loss isn’t easy. It’s a complex myriad of emotions and contradictions. Each day is an intense game of tug-of-war surging beneath the surface. There are two sides to every feeling, creating a multifaceted dimension of the mind. Excitement is accompanied by fear, hope aligns with despair, unbridled happiness teams up with guilt. Balancing…
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Sharing Infant Loss: Three Annoying Social Realities
Continue...Allow me to address a topic that our modern “happy” world easily dismisses. Are you ready for it? Here it comes: I had a baby who died. I’m a survivor of infant loss. My daughter passed away when she was a day old. This is part of my truth. Yet, I often feel an expectation…
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The Question–Is This Your First Baby?
Continue...The Question “Congratulations,” said the young man at the cashier’s station with a smile after a few glances at my hard-to-miss baby bump. He was so sincere and seemed genuinely happy for me, a stranger he’d never met. As I put the last few grocery items on the conveyer belt, I thought to myself how…
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4 Things Not To Say To Pregnancy After Loss Parents
Continue...Sometimes, even the kindest, most well-intentioned individuals can say the wrong things, especially to loss parents. It’s understandably difficult for non-loss parents to know what to say around those who’ve experienced the death of their baby or child, so they unknowingly end up using phrases that can sting. Knowing what to say becomes even more…
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The Healing Power of Pets After Loss
Continue...When my baby, Lucy, passed away at just a day old, I felt as though I’d become purposeless. Everything I thought I was, everything my life was supposed to be, it all disappeared the moment her heart stopped beating. In the early weeks after she was gone, my husband and I basically shut ourselves up…
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Three Reasons Why the Idea of Karma is Awful After Loss
Continue...Long ago, when I was an unbroken woman, I believed in karma. Embracing karmic phrases like “what goes around comes around” and “everything happens for a reason”, I unwittingly believed that life, eventually, would always turn out to be fair. Then, our newborn daughter Lucy died. I learned quickly that nothing in life has to…