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    Holiday Survival

    November 19, 2016

    I am not good at holidays. In the five years since my daughter passed I have yet to figure out what to do with them. Surely in that book I never received on how to react after you lose a child there is a chapter on the day and time in which holidays become tolerable.…

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  • What I need

    September 22, 2016

    I have never been good at telling others what I need. Losing my daughter complicated my ability to ask for help rather than sharpening it. If I could have given myself one thing to get me through, when I stopped answering the phone and hoped no one would stop by, it would have been a…

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  • Coping With a Sense of Failure

    September 20, 2016

    I was asked to complete a new health screening form at the doctors the other day. The typical questions were involved, otherwise I would have taken it personally when there was almost one full page dedicated to ruling out depression. I checked through the boxes truthfully, thinking I wasn’t doing too bad after all and…

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    Coping With the Holidays

    September 7, 2016

    The first Christmas after we lost our daughter I successfully pretended the holidays did not exist. Hiding inside our home, ignoring the phone and invitations for gatherings was perfectly acceptable. No one knew what to say to me anyway. The second Christmas we attended one small family event. We exchanged gifts with our immediate family…

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  • Holiday Survival

    August 26, 2016

    I am not good at holidays. In the five years since my daughter passed I have yet to figure out what to do with them. Surely in that book I never received on how to react after you lose a child there is a chapter on the day and time in which holidays become tolerable.…

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  • Strength: The definition of

    October 1, 2015

    Soon after my daughter died a well-meaning person told me I needed to be strong for my other children. I remember looking down at my deflated self, my weight leaning fully against the side of a chair, and feeling weaker than I ever had in my whole life. I was sad and isolated and misunderstood, feelings I…

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  • How To Survive

    August 7, 2015

    When we found out we were expecting triplets I avoided the horror stories. I clicked away from tales of early labor, grim statistics and the unthinkable… losing a baby. I couldn’t bear to think anything could happen to my unborn children. Truthfully, I wondered how women who suffered the loss of a child continued on.…

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