By the time you read this, my rainbow baby will be days away from turning one year old. As I reflect on all that this year has given to me, I do not feel sadness. I feel gratitude and joy. This year has been a wonderful gift. Something that I found surprising about this first…
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Miscarriage And The Fraud Police
Continue...Two and a half years have passed since my miscarriage. My rainbow baby will be a year old in less than a month. The more time that goes by the less I feel like I am “allowed” to discuss what happened to me. One of my favorite musicians, Amanda Palmer, introduced me to the idea…
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What Lighting A Candle Means To Me
Continue...As most of you probably know, October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. On October 15th every year there is something called the Wave of Light. This is when, at a specified time, people are encouraged to light a candle for their lost babies to remember them. During this time of year, many cultures…
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Friendship In Grief: Part 1
Continue...Why do we lose friendships in the midst of grief? I have asked myself this question for years. There is no one correct answer. But I think that it has a lot to do with society’s handling of the topic of child loss. I genuinely think most friends just don’t know what to say. Or…
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A Confession To Other Loss Mamas
Continue...I am a firm believer in the sisterhood and tribe mentality. As women, I feel it is part of our magic and strength to support other women. This takes time, patience, and practice. I know I am not perfect at it. But the one place where I tend to struggle most is when I interact…
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5 Ways to Care for Yourself After Miscarriage
Continue...Miscarriage can impact every part of our lives. At least, it did for me. By the time I finished undergoing the physical process of the loss, I felt like I did not know who I was. I did not know what day it was, only that I had been in bed for almost a week.…
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It Is Okay For Your Grief To Be Messy
Continue...I have been writing for Still Standing for close to a year now. Every month when I sit down to begin an article I always try to think of one element of grief and hone in on that. Almost as if I must compartmentalize all of my feelings and then pick which box to open…