As most of you probably know, October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. On October 15th every year there is something called the Wave of Light. This is when, at a specified time, people are encouraged to light a candle for their lost babies to remember them. During this time of year, many cultures…
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Friendship In Grief: Part 1
Continue...Why do we lose friendships in the midst of grief? I have asked myself this question for years. There is no one correct answer. But I think that it has a lot to do with society’s handling of the topic of child loss. I genuinely think most friends just don’t know what to say. Or…
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A Confession To Other Loss Mamas
Continue...I am a firm believer in the sisterhood and tribe mentality. As women, I feel it is part of our magic and strength to support other women. This takes time, patience, and practice. I know I am not perfect at it. But the one place where I tend to struggle most is when I interact…
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5 Ways to Care for Yourself After Miscarriage
Continue...Miscarriage can impact every part of our lives. At least, it did for me. By the time I finished undergoing the physical process of the loss, I felt like I did not know who I was. I did not know what day it was, only that I had been in bed for almost a week.…
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It Is Okay For Your Grief To Be Messy
Continue...I have been writing for Still Standing for close to a year now. Every month when I sit down to begin an article I always try to think of one element of grief and hone in on that. Almost as if I must compartmentalize all of my feelings and then pick which box to open…
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A Reflection On Loss Two Years Later
Continue...The end of April will mark two years since my first child bled from my body. Since then I have given birth to my rainbow baby, the only other child I will have. This month also marks one year since I found out that I was pregnant again. So there are many emotions mixed up…
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Healing After Loss Without A God
Continue...I was raised very Catholic but fell away from the church at sixteen. I came back when I was nineteen but really struggled with the beliefs I had been taught and the life I was living. At twenty-one, I began looking at other religions and practices and fell in love with Buddhism. From then on…