Every day, I get online and brace myself for what I know will be an onslaught of happy families with healthy babies and glowing pregnancies. I shuffle my way through pictures, announcements, kids wearing ‘Big Sister!’ shirts, balloons being released from boxes, and grandparents posting ultrasounds. I sit and stare at each one briefly, part…
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- Child Loss
- Complicated Grief
- Dealing With Others in Grief
- Feeling Hopeless
- Finding Hope
- Grief
- Healing
- Life After Loss
- Multiple Loss
- New Normal
- Self-Care
How Do You Keep Going?
Continue...I pressed my head against the cool window of the car as Dallas flashed past me. Sam driving. My daughter Bella in the back seat. It was August and it was hot and sticky. My parents were in a car behind us, heading to a hotel. Maybe we’ll go swimming tonight, I thought. Dinner, swimming.…
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- A Father's Grief
- Complicated Grief
- Dealing With Others in Grief
- Grief
- Healing
- Life After Loss
- Multiple Loss
- Neonatal Loss
- Recent Loss
- Relationships
Marriage after Loss
Continue...My husband Sam and I have been married almost 11 1/2 years. We’d always joked that we’d been through more in nine years of marriage than most people had in a lifetime. A young marriage, war, deployments, job loss, money troubles, short-selling a home, a child with stressful first year medical issues, both of us…
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- Child Loss
- Complicated Grief
- Grief
- Life After Loss
- Mother's Day
- Multiple Loss
- Neonatal Loss
- New Normal
- Recent Loss
Collide
Continue...May is fast becoming my least favorite month of the year. May 3rd is the day my twin boys Preston and Julian were born, and died. 2 years ago. May 5th my son Kaden would have been 9 months old. May is Mother’s Day. While I have a precious little girl here on earth, I’d…
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- Child Loss
- Complicated Grief
- Dealing With Others in Grief
- Feeling Hopeless
- Grief
- Healing
- Life After Loss
- Multiple Loss
- Neonatal Loss
- New Normal
- Recent Loss
- Self-Care
- Supporting a Friend Through Loss
When Grief Is Lonely and No One Sees
Continue...“I wish someone cared about the babies I lost too.” My heart feels ripped out as I read this comment on the picture of my twins, born at 20 weeks. I head over to her Instagram page to try to find out what happened, if there is anything I can say to reassure this girl…
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- Child Loss
- Complicated Grief
- Dealing With Others in Grief
- Grief
- Honoring Your Child
- Life After Loss
- Multiple Loss
- Recent Loss
Irreplaceable
Continue...I’m on the plane headed to a blog conference in August of ’11. Sitting next to an older man who is telling me about what he’s going to New York for. His wife of 40 years passed away a few months ago. He’s bringing his little dog with him to a friend’s home to stay…
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- Anger
- Complicated Grief
- Fear
- Grief
- Healing
- Life After Loss
- Multiple Loss
- Neonatal Loss
- New Normal
- Recent Loss
- Self-Care
Through It, Not Over It: On Anger
Continue...I’m at my therapist’s office, the same one as a year ago when I was working through losing my twin boys at 20 weeks. Now I’m here for them and my son who died at 3 weeks old in August. She’s going through my assessment, a weekly checkup to see where I am emotionally. I…