• Lone person praying to the universe.

    Thanks For Praying For Me But I’m Tired of Prayers

    July 6, 2018

    Four years into grieving for my daughter, I’ve grown tired of hearing that someone is praying for me. The sentiment is nice, but I find myself wondering what that really means. It’s one of the trigger phrases along with “everything happens for a reason” and any nonsense about “karma” that make me cringe. I grew…

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  • Teddy bear in a field. Just adopt.

    You Can Just Adopt–What No Bereaved Parent Wants To Hear

    June 1, 2018

    “You can just adopt.” This is a phrase I’ve heard countless times since ending our fertility journey. If only it were that easy. Since you’re talking about a human life, it really shouldn’t be “just” as easy as walking into the local Wal-Mart and picking out a doll. For the sake of brevity, I’m over-simplifying…

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  • Beauty In The Broken

    May 4, 2018

    In the first few years after Zoey died, I fought the idea that I was broken.  Everyone continually told me how strong I was, and I tried to prove that they were correct.  I functioned. I went to work. I found ways to cope.  In the last year, though, I’m learning that I can be…

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  • For Better, For Worse

    April 6, 2018

    In a few days, Joe and I will celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary.  Thinking back to that day, we never imagined the path our marriage would take.  With our friends and families looking on, barefoot on a beach and the gentle crash of the ocean waves in the background, we said our vows. “I, take…

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  • Bereaved Moms Book Club

    March 2, 2018

    The death of a child changes everything. You never know when you’re going to walk on a landmine, setting off grief and leaving you sobbing. Even books, television, and movies are forever changed. I’ve wondered if I should start the “Bereaved Moms Book Club” just so everyone knows what to avoid—or at least knows to…

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  • pregnancy after loss

    When Hope is Distant: Searching For Rainbows

    February 2, 2018

    There’s a term in the baby loss community known as “rainbow babies,” a baby born after the loss of a child. I’m not here to debate whether or not we should refer to these children as rainbows. Some feel this term is offensive to the baby that was lost or don’t feel as if it…

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  • A new year still rings in without my daughter

    Another New Year Without My Daughter

    January 5, 2018

    Happy New Year The New Year—a time to toast the beginning of the new calendar, fresh starts and hope for a better year.  I struggle with sharing the sentiment, though.  A new year just takes me further from the last time I held my baby girl.  Three years later I still miss her.  I think…

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