Dear Friend, Thanks so much for the invite to your party! I really appreciate that you remembered me and thought to include me. I know it wasn’t easy, because you know I’m still grieving. I just wanted to let you know I love it whenever anyone thinks of me. I’d really like to come, so…
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I Know You Think My Baby Is Ugly, But Here’s What You Don’t Understand
Continue...I’m not stupid. Of course, I know my baby is ugly. I know from the way you sit uncomfortably in your seat when I show his picture. From the way you pause as you try to think of something nice to say…. maybe about how he has so much hair! I know my baby is…
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Why Isn’t Our Government Taking Stillbirth And Its Consequences Seriously?
Continue...What do you think might change if governments started to take the issue of stillbirth seriously? Would we see better communication for families and care providers on the risks? What about more research dollars devoted to stillbirth research? If governments knew about the lifelong impact of stillbirth on mothers, fathers, and siblings, would there be…
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Finding A Therapist That Clicks
Continue...The Buddha at Kamakura. Mandatory decor at therapy offices? It took me a couple tries before I was able to find a therapist that clicked. It didn’t occur to me that this would be so hard. They’re professionals! Surely they have the same standards? No, I was completely wrong about that. When someone says that…
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Grieving In Front Of Your Living Children
Continue...Recently, a mother in one of the forums wrote about how she was feeling guilty that her grieving was taking away from her living children. That they were not getting the mother they deserved because she was sad all the time. Plenty of moms, including me, were there to remind her that these feelings are…
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Bullied for Being Bereaved: Part Two
Continue...Last month, I wrote about an example of the bullying that can take place on Twitter when you are mourning the death of your child. I had planned to write about how online bullying can move into ‘real life’, too. But a couple days after my post appeared, a better example came up in my…
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Bullied for Being Bereaved
Continue...Twitter is a cesspool. Believe it or not, that’s one of the first things that comes up when you search Google for information about the popular social media site. So maybe I shouldn’t be surprised when I got bullied there for being a bereaved mom. But despite everything, I still like to think of the…