I used to think how traumatic it was for us to grow Mia for 32 weeks and then deliver her “stillborn.”
But as the years go on, I am beginning to feel honoured as well that she has brought so much to our lives.
It was an honour to care for her, for her whole life.
It was an honour to be there for her when she died.
It was an honour to carry her still body for another four weeks until her delivery, with her twin sister.
It was an honour to be there for her at her birth and to celebrate her arrival.
It was an honour to hold her in my arms, to pick out items for her to wear, to dress her, to take remembrance photographs of her, to introduce her to other members of our family, to place her softly into her coffin, to gently lower her into the ground and give her back to nature.
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It is now an honour to say her name, to share photographs of her, to talk about her and to remember her.
We are honoured that Mia has taught us so much about life, love, and loss.
We are honoured that she chose us.
We are honoured to be given the privilege of continuing her legacy.
We are honoured that she has inspired us to do things in her name.
It is a privilege to have known her and to be her parents.
She deserves to have her name in lights.
About the Author: Niamh Connolly-Coyne is mother to three daughters Alice and twins Emma and Mia. Mia lives in heaven. She passed away a few weeks before she was born. Niamh lives in Ireland. She works for a charity. She also volunteers her time with baby loss charities in Ireland particularly focusing on making change for bereaved parents through campaign and lobbying work.
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Niamh Connolly-Coyne is mother to three daughters Alice and twins Emma and Mia. Mia passed away a few weeks before she was born. She had a heart condition called hypoplastic left heart syndrome.
Niamh lives in Ireland. She set up an awareness / advocacy group for bereaved parents who have experienced loss in a multiple pregnancy called Peas in a Pod: loss in a multiple pregnancy @peasinapodireland. Niamh hopes also to create more awareness and inclusion of the needs of parents who have lost a baby from a multiple pregnancy through campaign and lobbying work.