• 8 Tips For Honoring Your Grief At Christmas

    November 29, 2016

    I’ll never forget my first Christmas after loss. Less than a week before that Christmas, my fallopian tube ruptured, and we lost the little baby we had already loved so much. In the midst of my loss, I went on a mini vacation with family where I was expected to shop, eat dinner out, and otherwise behave normally. I…

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  • When Birthdays Stand Still

    November 28, 2016

    When I woke up this morning, I was just going to repost this article.  About the beauty of a birthday…the one I wrote last year and was just going to reshare today because I didn’t have words. And then, driving away from my son’s school holiday shop, I found words. Angry words. Hot tear-filled words.…

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  • Black Friday Means Carseat Was Empty

    When Black Friday Means The Carseat Was Empty

    November 25, 2016

    That is one of my most vivid memories. I was wheeled out of the hospital…bags in my lap.  Gift bags, a fully stocked diaper bag and a memory box. Everyone was looking at me and crying, and I didn’t care because I was crying too.  More inside, than on the outside, because the shock was…

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    Holiday Survival

    November 19, 2016

    I am not good at holidays. In the five years since my daughter passed I have yet to figure out what to do with them. Surely in that book I never received on how to react after you lose a child there is a chapter on the day and time in which holidays become tolerable.…

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  • Establishing Boundaries

    November 18, 2016

    For the first several years after my son’s death I focused heavily on keeping his memory alive. I spoke of him every chance I was given and I did a tremendous amount of charity work in his memory. I worked with several hospitals on how to make the NICU experience better for parents, and educated…

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  • Savoring The Season

    November 16, 2016

    And just like that, we are staring down the “most wonderful time of the year”. When you have experienced the loss of a child, the regular days are not the same, much less the holidays. The big difference is in the pressure. All of the sudden, it is expected that we see family and friends.…

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  • The Truth Is…

    November 15, 2016

    “Will it always hurt like this?” Those words, my husband asked in shaky breath, as we stood by our son’s casket. He was looking into the eyes of another child loss couple, who’d lost their daughter years and years before. A silent pause. They looked at each other, toward us, to the floor. No words.…

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