20 Things I Do That Only a Fellow Loss Mom Understands
I decided to get a memorial tattoo when I was in my thirties even though I never thought I would get inked.
I keep a special box in my closet I pull out on her birthday to spend time remembering her.
I take family photos each year with a picture of my stillborn child in them.
I post memes about grief and loss and love for my child that died on my Facebook feed.
I take the the same day off of work each year in order to spend a day celebrating her birthday.
I buy or make a birthday cake for my dead child.
I hang up an extra stocking with her name on it at Christmas.
I light a candle every October 15th.
I share my story and help others.
I say I have two daughters when you can only see one.
I dress my younger daughter in clothes that say she is a little sister.
I count her sisters breaths every night before I close my eyes to go to bed.
I share my dead child’s photo on social media.
I talk to her in my head when I’m scared or worried or need to make a tough decision in life.
I believe birds are her spirit coming to visit me.
I say her name every chance I get.