Day after Mother’s Day, huh? We did it; we made it through ladies. We did not set fire to the earth and we are not in jail for punching anyone in the face. Woo, congrats!
Now, on a serious note, I truly hope yesterday was gentle to you.
On Saturday I was a part of a Google Hangout with some amazing women. We discussed our definition of what a Mother is and what our wish was for others on Mother’s Day. I do hope you watch it. There was so much more I would loved to have elaborated on but we only had so much time. The beauty of being here, with you right now, is that I can go into detail!
In the Hangout my wish for all the infertile ladies was for each and every one of you to find someone in real life or the internet that will be there for you during those time you break and crumble and fall. We can’t do it alone. We can’t always be strong. And to always break alone is so isolating and scary.
I want each of us to find a person who doesn’t try to stop us from breaking. In our ruin of ourselves comes the rebuilding of the new us. I want our person to be there holding their bottle of glue to help us get put back together. They will accept that pieces will be missing, pieces won’t fit exactly how they did before; we will be different.
I wish that we find someone who, that after we have been put together the best we can be, will marvel at the new you and recognizes that you will never be the same person you were. I wish they embrace your newness and walks with you when you are ready to take the first step no matter how small as the new you.
Being new is scary and you can easily get lost along the way. I wish for your person to be able to reach in and pull you back during those times you can’t see your new path.
Not having a person like this in your life in some way is lonely, scary, panic-inducing for most of us. I know there are many women who do not have this kind of support and it breaks my heart. If you are struggling or know someone who is please reach out. Comment here if needed. There are places I can help people find. No one should have to do this alone.
Many hugs to you all.