The structure of a support system is something that I haven’t been very familiar with in my personal life. I have cloudy memories of some tradition when I was a small boy. Those memories usually came from holidays and they are blurry at best. At some point in both my immediate and extended family, something broke and has not been fixed since. Was … [Read more...]
Coping With a Sense of Failure
January 24, 2013 by 1 Comment
I was asked to complete a new health screening form at the doctors the other day. The typical questions were involved, otherwise I would have taken it personally when there was almost one full page dedicated to ruling out depression. I checked through the boxes truthfully, thinking I wasn't doing too bad after all and then I got to a question that sent … [Read more...]
Monster Mommy
December 21, 2012 by 13 Comments
I have a secret that I am not proud of. Out in public, I smile, I joke, I laugh, and I am especially patient with my children. I am the person that you may see and admire from a distance. The one who appears to have it all together. I am that mom that empty nesters compliment in the grocery store because I haven't gone 'psycho' on the kids who … [Read more...]
I’ve Been to Brazil
December 11, 2012 by 14 Comments
I opened the front door of our home and started walking. A new subdivision was under construction behind our home. Beyond the construction zone, it opened into a field marked with a tall wooden post that was spray painted with orange numbers. Honestly, it wasn’t the walk that I desired but rather some time alone. I needed to write. I needed … [Read more...]
Inside the Mind of a Grieving Father: Conclusion
September 11, 2012 by 4 Comments
When I reached down to pick up the box, it took little strength to carry. How could this loss cause me to drag my feet with the heaviness of despair, yet her coffin was comfortably secure in the partially tensed muscles of my arms? I made the walk past the rows of mourners and placed the casket on the table which was framed by beautiful flowers. To … [Read more...]
Comforting That Collides With Grief
July 10, 2012 by 19 Comments
When you suffer the loss of a child, your life will take you down an uncharted path as you begin to face grief. One of the things you’ll encounter along this path are unprepared comforters -- those whose intentions are to make your grief more bearable. Unfortunately, this group of comforters are at a disadvantage in the know-how, thus their words fall … [Read more...]
