Guest Post by Megan Skaggs We don’t say it much. Twins. And when we do say it, it still cuts me to the core sometimes. I don’t think I was ever more excited and happy than the day we saw two heartbeats on that sonogram screen. When I was in college and dating my now husband I used to dream that we’d have twin boys, one named after him, William … [Read more...]
It’s Not Okay
April 16, 2013 by 4 Comments
Guest Post by Heather Wright I have always been the type of person that likes to please everyone, make everyone feel good. Especially working on a college campus with young adults who are trapped in the in between of their parent’s doing everything for them and learning to take responsibility. They forget to turn something in on time, or break … [Read more...]
The Incredible Shrinking Woman
April 12, 2013 by 3 Comments
I have always been tall. Tall enough for work colleagues to question whether I really needed to wear those heels. Tall enough to be asked to reach things down from the top shelf in supermarket aisles. Perhaps as a result of having my height constantly drawn to my attention - as though I somehow failed to notice it during the thirty odd years I have … [Read more...]
The Frailty of Family
April 9, 2013 by 9 Comments
The structure of a support system is something that I haven’t been very familiar with in my personal life. I have cloudy memories of some tradition when I was a small boy. Those memories usually came from holidays and they are blurry at best. At some point in both my immediate and extended family, something broke and has not been fixed since. Was … [Read more...]
The Fine Line
April 4, 2013 by 2 Comments
If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the ten years since Charlie’s death, it’s that there is a fine line between creating awareness and creating fear. The other day at work, I was reminded of this. I was talking with a coworker about a friend of hers whose daughter was admitted to the hospital with symptoms that were very reminiscent … [Read more...]
My Grief Will Last a Lifetime, and That’s Okay
April 3, 2013 by 5 Comments
I'll always miss my daughter, Cora. I'll always wish she were here. Before I lost her, I thought of grief as something I should get over. Like it was some sort of disease I was trying to cure. I was already dancing with grief--my father died when I was a child, but I didn't get it. Society paints loss as something that happens, we recover from. … [Read more...]
Being a Stepmom and Infertility
April 1, 2013 by Leave a Comment
Since Thanksgiving, my almost 16 year old stepson has been living with us full time. Parenting a teenager is hard, but parenting one that is not yours is even harder. As with all teens we've been having attitude and school issues and issues with chores. One of the issues was the teen thinking he was doing everyyyythiiiiing around the house(remember … [Read more...]
The Memory Keeper
March 14, 2013 by 15 Comments
Guest Post by RaeAnne “Promise me you’ll stay with him, no matter what.” I said those words to my husband as we wrote our birth plan for our son Samuel’s arrival. “I promise”, was his reply. Just a few weeks earlier, after an anomaly was discovered during a routine ultrasound, we learned that our precious little baby was not going to … [Read more...]
Brokenness and Honey Curls
March 13, 2013 by 7 Comments
It was 1am. I couldn't sleep. No surprises there. I lit a sweet pea and jasmine candle that my dear friend gave to me on Christian's birthday. She told me that her friend had given her one and told her that when she was feeling sad to light the candle, inhale its scent and imagine a warm hug from her. My friend wanted the same thing for me. Oh how I … [Read more...]
