As women we need to share our birth story. Some people believe that we, as new mothers, enter the land of motherhood with the birth of our first child. However, when your child is born sleeping, the birth story gets complicated. Sometimes I feel as if I don’t have the right to share my birth story. After all, I feel as if she wasn’t really born in … [Read more...]
Still Standing
May 6, 2013 by 5 Comments
I was originally going to do a series of photos that were going to inspiring and happy and all sorts of awesome, that post was scraped since I can't lie and pretend that after a year since my first article here on Still Standing things are so much better because they aren't. In some ways they are but others are worse. The last year I've gone … [Read more...]
Forever Love
April 27, 2013 by 5 Comments
My son should be turning seven. Seven. So far I've survived five of his birthdays without him. Five. He was killed when he was two. Two. It doesn't add up. It hasn't since the day he was violently robbed from me and it never will. Just thinking about another birthday without him makes me want to crawl into my bed and never come … [Read more...]
Reconceiving Loss
April 24, 2013 by Leave a Comment
Guest Post by Tara Shafer We all understand loss in our own way and the path towards understanding is a deeply personal one. As such, the newly launched Reconceiving Loss, an online resource for pregnancy loss and healing, offers personal and communal refuge. It is for women and men and relevant to pregnancy loss occurring at any stage. It is … [Read more...]
Hope In The Face of Isolation: Feb. 28th
April 17, 2013 by 1 Comment
Guest Post by Mary Crompton My husband and I decided 10 years ago that it was time to start a family. It was the most happiest time of our lives. None of us could have predicted the storm brewing. I almost passed out, when I was told our first daughter Avery was going to die from a rare disease. She died a day after birth. It took months for me to … [Read more...]
Healing Mother’s Day
April 10, 2013 by 7 Comments
"A Mother is not defined by the number of children you see, but by the love that she holds in her heart." - Franchesca Cox I'm not sure that I have ever read truer words. Oh how I wish all of humanity could read Franchesca's quote. There is so much unrest surrounding Mother's Day in our community. The day has been bashed and twisted into a commercial … [Read more...]
What’s in a name? (April’s Journey)
April 2, 2013 by 3 Comments
What’s in a name? This month I wanted to ask you all, what’s in a name? How do you decide? What is important to you, when it comes to naming our children? When we first heard the words “It’s a boy!” with Aidan, I immediately saw what I wanted for his life; who I hoped he would grow to be like. We had been tossing around names for weeks, … [Read more...]
The Bereaved Mother is…
March 25, 2013 by 33 Comments
the woman standing in front of you at the checkout line on the verge of tears because she just dropped the jar of pickles, the cashier who seems she could care less about her job, but had to return to work much too soon after her loss, the woman at work who tells you she doesn't want any kids but isn't telling you that she's been trying for years … [Read more...]
Sharing your Journey
March 7, 2013 by 2 Comments
Guest Post by Christi Losing a child is completely and totally unexplainable. Every fiber of your body is ripped from you. Besides, this child is a life God created from your own DNA. This child is a part of you. When your child dies, literally a part of you dies too. Life does not just halt, it stops. Dreams are shattered. Joy becomes sorrow. A pit … [Read more...]
Glad to Know You
March 6, 2013 by 1 Comment
I'm usually a quick writer. Open Wordpress, add new post and I'm off. This month, I've stared at the empty Wordpress box for several moments. Willing words to come. When they do, they don't fit here. They're dark and not uplifting. The past few weeks, I haven't been standing. I haven't even been crawling, and not because I broke my leg six weeks … [Read more...]
