For years, woman have suffered in silence. It's been too long. Things are changing, but change can't come soon enough. I lost my baby when she was five days old, I am breaking the silence. I suffered two early miscarriages, I am breaking the silence. I am dealing with possible infertility, I am breaking the silence. I will no longer be … [Read more...]
Guest Post by Tara Shafer We all understand loss in our own way and the path towards understanding is a deeply personal one. As such, the newly launched Reconceiving Loss, an online resource for pregnancy loss and healing, offers personal and communal refuge. It is for women and men and relevant to pregnancy loss occurring at any stage. It is … [Read more...]
Guest Post by Keira Sorrells It has been five years since my daughter Zoe died. She was one of my triplets born at 25 weeks, 5 days. She spent nine of her fourteen months in the NICU. In many ways I have struggled to find my proper place in the bereaved parent community. Unlike many babyloss moms, I had my daughter for over a year. I know what … [Read more...]
I’ve recently started coaching baby loss moms on how to get past that place of “stuck” in their grief and emerge into a place a joy that honors their lost child. Making the decision to start offering this type of coaching was difficult. (Understatement of the year.) It took months of soul searching and insecurity and fear and ultimately, the … [Read more...]
If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the ten years since Charlie’s death, it’s that there is a fine line between creating awareness and creating fear. The other day at work, I was reminded of this. I was talking with a coworker about a friend of hers whose daughter was admitted to the hospital with symptoms that were very reminiscent … [Read more...]
When you lose a child, your biggest fear is that over time your child will be forgotten. You do whatever you can to remember your child and to hold on to the memory of them, making sure their memory never fades away. I have lost two children. My daughter, Olivia, was stillborn and 11 months later my husband and I lost our son Asher to congenital heart … [Read more...]
Within days of my daughter's death, I felt a pull at my heart. Something, possibly her, was tugging saying, share her, share her, share her. I wanted to share her with the world. She was so beautiful. She changed me so much. I just couldn't let all that love and light die. I wanted it to multiply. Shortly after she died suddenly and … [Read more...]
Guest Post by: Carol Facca, MA (Tomorrow’s Child/Michigan SIDS) Twenty-five years ago I delivered my first child, a health baby boy that we named Blake Anthony. When Blake was born, I felt I had learned what life was all about. Life wasn’t about my career or any material successes; life was about being a mom. I never felt such a heaven sent … [Read more...]
In the South Pacific, I walked around the small island of Rarotonga curious about all the amazing flowers draped over the large cement boxes in the front yard of the homes. I was told that the Cook Island Maori bury their dead in their yard, performing a daily ritual and remembrance by covering the tomb of their ancestors in flowers. I've thought of … [Read more...]
It's funny how things change. From top to bottom. For so long I could hardly recognize the girl staring back at me in the mirror. I wasn't familiar with this new girl's passions, with the way grief felt unbelievably comfortable, or even with her new circle of friends (and online friends). I had to relearn who I was becoming. I had to accept … [Read more...]
For years, woman have suffered in silence. It’s been too long. Things are changing, but change can’t come soon enough. I lost my baby when she was five days old, I am breaking the silence. I suffered two early miscarriages, I am breaking the silence. I am dealing with possible infertility, I am breaking the [...]
I must have been almost ten weeks along, and the only person that knew about this little life growing inside me was my husband. Our first child. Three years ago. We decided that Christmas Day would be the perfect time to announce to our families that we were going to be parents. We handpicked some [...]
