• When Grief Surprises You

    February 20, 2018

    Grief hit me hard this year on my birthday. Unexpected grief is always the hardest to handle because it is a surprise. When anniversaries or special occasions appear on the calendar, I can brace myself, somewhat prepare for what I expect will come. The date gives me permission to sink and release. When it’s unplanned,…

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  • A new year still brings new grief even after a decade

    A Decade of New Year Grief

    January 8, 2018

    Starting a new year after losing our son in 2008 seemed inconceivable. How could we move forward without him, knowing he would be missing from 365 days of that year?  Though it has been a decade now, each January, when the calendar turns I am taken back to that first year without him. Below are…

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  • Why I'll Never Get Over the Loss of My Son

    Why I’ll Never Get Over Losing Him

    December 19, 2017

    Shortly after our loss, my husband and I attended a support group (Compassionate Friends). It was the first and last time we would go together. What shocked us, and turned my husband away from finding hope there, was hearing story after story of loss, but realizing they were years into their grief. Decades. We couldn’t…

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  • Brotherly Love – How Sibling Loss Shadows the Surviving Child

    November 21, 2017

    I often wonder how many ways losing his brother changed our youngest son.  Noah was almost nine when he lost his best friend, role model and hero.  Traumatic grief at a such a fragile age has to alter who you are.  I know it did me and I had decades of experience on him. My…

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  • How to Help when the Unimaginable Happens

    October 17, 2017

    Our community [nation] has been shattered by loss as of late. It seems nearly every other day we hear of another heartbreaking story. Life is hard. Life is unexpected. Life is short. Loss is loss to whomever is grieving. It matters to them and in those first few days is all-consuming. To those unconnected, life…

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  • How to Help When the Unimaginable Happens

    October 17, 2017

    Our community [nation] has been shattered by loss as of late. It seems nearly every other day we hear of another heartbreaking story. Life is hard. Life is unexpected. Life is short. Loss is loss to whomever is grieving. It matters to them and in those first few days is all-consuming. To those unconnected, life…

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  • Comparing Grief

    September 19, 2017

    When you’ve recently lost a child, everything is hyper-sensitized. Things that normally wouldn’t bother you do; on the other hand, sometimes you are numb to things that should. I remember after we lost Austin, what others would consider a major stress, was nothing to me. There was no reaction. Shortly after, my car broke down…

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