Guest Post by Megan Skaggs My first Mother’s Day was an incredible mix of emotions. I didn’t really know whether to be happy or sad; or crying or not. I remember feeling quite numb. Our surviving twin son, Will, was about 10 months old. His identical twin brother, MJ, had been dead for about 9 months, and we were just starting to be able to see … [Read more...]
On Ranking Losses
May 14, 2013 by 22 Comments
Guest Post by Sarah Rieke “Well at least you weren’t further along in your pregnancy.” “Thank goodness you didn’t have to spend weeks in the NICU.” “You should be so glad you got to have your baby for the time that you did.” To those who have never experienced infertility, pregnancy, or infant loss it seems there is a basic ranking … [Read more...]
Finding Strength
May 13, 2013 by Leave a Comment
Guest Post by Shane Davis “Where there is love, there is life.” -Mother Teresa I'm a crier. When I went into preterm labor with my daughter, Olivia, I was surprised by my lack of tears and the strange strength I got from my shock. And when I held her in my arms knowing this was the first and last time I would physically hold her, I continued to … [Read more...]
I’m Tired, I’m Worn
May 13, 2013 by 1 Comment
Guest Post by Melissa Neu I don't know that I've ever been so exhausted. Sit and cry exhausted. Stomach hurting exhausted. "I'm tired, I'm worn, my heart is heavy. From the work it takes, to keep on breathing..." I’ve been seeing a counselor. I had put off making the appt I knew I needed because I didn't want to relive the whole story. It’s … [Read more...]
Mother’s Day
May 9, 2013 by Leave a Comment
Guest Post by Stephanie Kreb A reminder of what I do have and a reminder of what is missing. I have two amazing sons and a daughter. My little girl died in my arms, because she was born with a fatal birth defect, the day before Mother’s Day and since them I have really hated the day, with a passion. I find it so hard to be joyful on the day … [Read more...]
When Children Grieve
May 8, 2013 by 1 Comment
Guest Post by Brooke Grunza After the death of my son I never expected to live again. I did not believe that the raw pain and emotion I felt learning my son would die would ever go away because a part of me died with him that day. But in time I did begin to live again. And that was so very hard. Each day that I cried less and smiled more was a … [Read more...]
Sunshine
May 7, 2013 by Leave a Comment
Guest Post by Sharon Chatham At present I am looking at the desktop wallpaper of our computer that my husband chose. To paint a picture, it is, what I can only guess is a sunset into an island horizon over the ocean. In the image, the sun is rising or setting on the right side of the picture. Also in the image the sun is reflected in a stream in the … [Read more...]
Motherless, Childless, Grateful on Mother’s Day
May 6, 2013 by Leave a Comment
Guest Post by Laura Beck Mother's Day. It was always a difficult day for me growing up. It was always a reminder of what I didn't have and a reminder of what others did have. When I was a newborn I was put up for adoption and given to a couple that truly wanted me. My mother, Marnie, is the woman who adopted me. She was smart, she had class, … [Read more...]
This Mother’s Day
May 3, 2013 by Leave a Comment
Guest Post by Robyna This won’t be my first mother’s day. It will be my first without my precious second born son in my arms. Up until now, mother’s day has been about sticky kisses and carefully crafted cards. About my husband trying to let me sleep in whilst my son hugs me and encourages me to unwrap the gift he made. It’s been about a … [Read more...]
Stone Project for Our Lost Little Ones
May 3, 2013 by 1 Comment
Guest Post by Kelsey Vanderhorst of KVBIJOU Today marks a whole year that weʼve lived and breathed since watching our son slip from this world. A year of firsts. A year of unpredictable heartache. A year of tears and relearning how to live. A year of life without Zachary. Something I never imagined my heart would survive. Iʼm not sure it has, but … [Read more...]
