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Don’t Tell Me God Is Good

February 28, 2018

Well, at least don’t tell me that when it’s attached to something like:

You got the job! (God is good!)
You closed on the house! (God is good!)
That car barely missed you at the intersection! (God is good!)
You’re carrying twins! (God is good!)

See where I am going with this? Because the reality is that if you believe God is good, then He’s good all the time.

Like when you lose the job. Or the house is foreclosed. Or your car is totaled. Or the twins die.

And while I believe that to be true, because I believe the nature of God is unchanging…would you ever in a million years tell someone who just lost their baby to cancer: “Isn’t God sooooo good, though? Wow, didn’t He do it right?”

No. You wouldn’t. (And shouldn’t!)

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I have such a hard time with people saying, “God is good!” in response to whatever good things happen to them. Found a parking space, YAY GOD! Got a raise, YAY GOD! It’s a great hair day, YAY GOD!

As if it is sort of an obligatory thanks to an intangible entity in a bottle making all the good things happen.

Because for those of us who have had to hear, “I’m sorry, there’s no heartbeat,” or “There’s nothing we can do,” or even, “We’re sorry, we have to let you go,” what are we supposed to think?

God isn’t good?

I look at so many people I know from the last eight years—this eight years we’ve navigated life after losing our children and having to figure out where our faith and our reality converge. I know many who just stopped believing in God at all, and you know what? I totally don’t blame them. I hate it for them, because I know what hope my faith brings me, but I honestly get where they are coming from.

Because when we, those who claim the good news of Christ, go around making Him seem as if He’s only good (or praised) when life is going good—we alienate so many people. So many desperate people.

I’m not saying that the opposite of “God is good,” in response to something good happens means we should go around reminding people to ‘praise in the storm,’ when their worlds are crumbling. Gracious, NO, do NOT do that either.

Related: There’s Always A Choice

Jesus didn’t tell Lazarus’s sisters to buck up and give thanks as their brother lay dead.

He cried. With them. He knew He was about to raise Lazarus from the dead and still? He wept for his friend and with his friend’s family because it hurt. Death hurts. 

I’m also not saying that God does not deserve praise and gratitude and thanks for everything we have, are and that He does in this world.

I’m just saying that I’ve had to reconcile God being good despite the things happening in my life. Despite the coffins and the beating hearts no longer beating…the cancers that stole and the lives forever changed in this hard world, I’ve had to figure out how God is good when you get to take your child home and my son is dead in the ground.

It’s not been easy, and if our calling in life is truly to love God and love one another…we can’t do it without being real. Honest about life being hard and that we will be heartbroken.

Honest that God isn’t just good because we get the job or the new house or the miraculous healing (those always sting the most with me)…He’s good because He grieves with us and mourns with us and walks with us as He redeems our pain and heals our hearts.

Tell people that, when you want them to know God is good. Tell them that your world was shattered and He picked you up and kept you breathing. Tell them that you didn’t know how you’d face another minute and He gave you the strength to do so. Tell them you stood in church daring God to heal your heart, crying in the most pain and agony you’ve ever felt…and He gave you unimaginable strength and healing.

Tell them that He still does that. Daily.

That’s the God people need to know. The everlasting, enduring One, regardless of the circumstance.

 

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  • Lori Ennis

    I'm small, but scrappy! I have a fierce passion for my family, friends and life in general...I'm a military spouse who has battled infertility for over 13 years, as well as the loss of two babies gone too soon. I love to laugh, and am grateful for every second I celebrate with the ones I love. You can find me at my blog Lori Does Maryland or on Facebook Lori Mullins Ennis or on The Twitter here Lori M. Ennis

    5 Comments

    • Nancy

      March 1, 2018 at 7:23 am

      God is good all of the time. We say it when we are happy, and may not say it when we are sad, but it’s still the perfect thing to say when we are rejoicing. Too many posts these days telling others what to say………..

      1. Nicole

        March 2, 2018 at 6:28 am

        I appreciate hearing what to say from someone who has walked a difficult road, though. I often wonder, and end up either being silent (wrong) or saying the wrong thing (also wrong).

      2. Katie Bieda

        March 2, 2018 at 11:39 am

        Yes, God is good all of the time. But the point of the article was to say: if we only say “God is good” when something good is happening in our lives, where does that leave the rest of us when terrible things are happening? How am I to reconcile that God is good when my 2-year-old gets a cancer diagnosis? Lori’s answer: God is good because he is walking this cancer road with us. God is good because he held on to me when I felt like I couldn’t hold on to him. God is good because he hates cancer, too, and is with us through this storm. When I only hear people claiming that God is good in the good times, it certainly leads me to question whether he’s good in the bad times; I spent a full year trying to sort through this exact scenario. Lori’s answer (THANK YOU, LORI), I believe, encourages all of us to proclaim that God is good all the time…maybe we just need to rethink how we proclaim it.

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    • Me and Him

      April 13, 2018 at 4:08 pm

      I am sorry but I am one of those people that when I get a good check up from my doctor I praise Him by saying thanks and God is good . But I am also the person when I thought I was going to loose my eye from cancer I cried then thanked Him and told people God is good . He has a plan not sure what yet but He will provide and it will be better than I thought for myself. It says to praise Him for everything . I try. I don’t want people to judge me for saying He is good when something good happens you don’t know my heart He does and the only thing that matters is that .

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