• Four Things About Grief That Never Change

    February 29, 2016

    This year, my son would turn seven…if he lived. He died the day after he was born, after years of infertility and adoption failures and a perfectly-perfect and healthy full-term pregnancy. A rare labor ‘fluke’–and my world has not been the same. I have not been the same. The years have given me perspective; allowed…

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  • Still Listening: Chase

    February 27, 2016

    Today’s featured Still Listening song is “Chase” by Tedashii (ft. Tim Halperin). A spiritual, spoken-word song about the pain of losing a loved one, its touching lyrics include: “When I first held you I cried. / If I would have known a year later I wouldn’t have you in this life / I would’ve never let you…

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  • On Consolation

    February 25, 2016

    “Inconsolable.” I used to think that word was nonsense. Hyperbole. Sloppy overstatement. I mean, really, is there someone out there who would experience something that at some point they would never get over, that they would literally never find consolation from? Really?? Of course, since Simon’s death two years ago, my perspective on this–as on…

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  • The On Coming Alive Project

    February 23, 2016

    Perhaps you’ve seen little glimpses in your newsfeed? Seen #oncomingalive and thought, “Hmm. Wonder what that is all about?” Maybe you relate?  You can’t believe it, and it’s certainly in spite of the enormous loss(es) you’ve suffered, but you relate–you feel like pieces of you are coming alive again? You may not be sure how…and…

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  • Without Dreams

    February 22, 2016

    I’ve never dreamed of her. I’ve hoped and prayed and begged, but I’ve never dreamed of her. Though a dream isn’t needed, in the connection between mother and child. I can see her in my spirit when I quiet the world around me and calm the one within me. I see her the same every…

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  • Still Listening: Climbing Clouds

    February 20, 2016

    Today’s featured Still Listening song is “Climbing Clouds” by Jetty Rae. With what might be the saddest, most tear-jerking, most touching music video of all time, Jetty Rae’s song about stillbirth comes from a personal place: the loss of her daughter, Ella.  More about her story can be found on her blog, The Singing Hitchhiker.…

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  • Scars

    February 18, 2016

      “God will not look you over for medals, degrees or diplomas but for scars.” ― Elbert Hubbard Most of the time, I’m too busy to notice them. I get dressed in a frenzy, mind full of the day’s list of “to-dos”, interruptions from husband, kids, inserting their to-dos, schedules…quick kiss, mumbled “I love yous”…

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